Today it’s not me, it’s Rebecca talking about Britney and her brush with CPS. Her post surprised me, because she wrote that it’s common from her experience for parents to be questioned suspiciously when their kids have accidents.
I took my first baby to the emergency room so many times for every little thing, called poison control a few times and even called for advice when he fell off the couch onto the tile, smacking the back of his head several months ago (Ouch!). In fact when he was 2.5 he managed to push off his high chair tray and bang his head on our glass dining table, leaving a very scary-looking mark above his eye (Well I guess it wasn't that scary-looking since the ER doctor just wiped it clean, put a band-aid on it and sent us home).
But I've never been questioned suspiciously. I discussed this once with a lovely ER Nurse and she said, "Dear, abusive parents don't tend to race their kid to the emergency room on Saturday night because he was scratched by a cat."
Yes, we really did that. And yes, I think she was making fun of us... I can't imagine why. I’m sure a lot of bad things can result from an (allegedly) “harmless” cat scratch.
Seriously though I think medical professionals are trained to look for signals other than a hurt kid to spot potential abuse. I find it hard to believe that CPS visits every parent who’s been in the ER. Either something else made them suspicious about Britney’s situation or they did it because of her high profile. Kids have accidents all the time. My Little One, the daredevil, is so bruised up as a matter of course that if I didn’t know better I’d swear he moonlights as a kick boxer. But… his doctor seems to think he looks like a normal little boy.
Has anyone here been made to feel suspect in the ER?