Rebecca Traister (who admits she has no kids and is not even married) has decided to take issue (for I don't know what reason) with a new magazine geared toward professional women-turned-stay-at-home Moms. The magazine is admittedly designed to appeal to upper middle class women, and it promotes traditional gender roles. But other than that, it sounds like (I haven't had the chance to read it yet) it does a pretty good job of trying to talk about the realities of life at home with children.
Traister is understandably concerned by the lack of evidence in the magazine that the feminist movement ever occurred. But she's obviously talking about something she doesn't otherwise understand. For instance, she was disturbed to read that moms might be witholding sex for various reasons. And she wants to know, "don't moms want sex too?" And the answer is (I'm sorry to further frighten her from the prospect of creating a family some day), no, they usually don't. Sometimes for a few years even (if they've had more than one child). And this is a real (and important) issue for couples with young children. Since when is it not in the spirit of feminism to talk about this collective experience?
She's further disturbed to hear that men don't lose their sex drive as a result of changing poopy diapers and making bottles. (pause for collective giggle) Note to Rebecca: It's mostly a hormonal and biological phenomenon for women, and male hormones are not involved past the point of conception.
Too bad someone else at Salon didn't conduct this interview. I would have really enjoyed a critique from a feminist who actually has a clue what the hell the editors at total180 are talking about.